Went out with friends, had fun, and showes I am capable of living alone just as you advised here. I thought was doing the right thing by being there for her and giving what I thought she wanted/needed from a supportive man. So, in order for her to see this, there must be change. this is hard for me . I didnt plead for her to stay I textd her once or twice after breakup but I am giving her space now.. What would you advice me? READ THIS How to get an ex back after 3 months if you're still interested! Apollonia. A week later, i was invited to her house by her cousin (my friend) so we can drop off a b-day gift for her sister. And I am just screwing things up with my own life and the relation. I do believe that you have to be relaxed and show her that you are ok with a separation and working on things. My question is, do I have a chance to get her back now? Hi Chris, She was my staff but a few months ago ttansferef to another company. Thanks for writing to us. So whenever we had an argument or a fight recently, she told me it always made her think about things i did in the past and she doesnt see herself marrying me in the future. I would recommend you to speak to one of our coaches and give the full story so they can help you effectively. She let me know she was in a mood and I asked why never responded. A few days after she said she needed space, she liked a post of mine. Did she explain why? You arent feeling good about yourself right now and its important that you get back to the Andres that she fell in love with. It has been a week half into our break and we still text and call here and there and she would reach out to me asking to hang out during the break but I didnt say no because she will question why I dont want to and she said that she is used to hanging out and enjoys it. I was a little bummed out but understood considering i felt the same to begin with. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, Thanks. Giving her space is the only I can do, but should I walk away or wait for a reply patiently? Apollonia. She states that she is happy with me but not herself, she said she wanted and needed time to fix herself and time to herself because I wasnt getting the love and attention that I needed and deserved. For the first week we were still flirting but over time she became more distant. This is going to be vital if you want to get her back. Do I just keep waiting it out? Team Apollonia. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching-2/ Recently we had a fight, she said she wanted to break up and I tried to change her mind. Hello TJ, Best, In order for me to give you the right guidance, I would have to speak to you through a coaching session. She says that for the last two weeks there are frequent silence moments between us when were together at her studio and that we dont talk that much anymore like in the beginning. She said I might of not been on the same page cause I was moving fast which I understand I got excited ans caught up in the moments with her She messaged me on Friday saying hey I am going to Montauk wont be on my phone a lot so can we set something up for Monday when you are free ? Today my girlfriend told me to that she needs space in order to breath. Hello Issac, Saying what was I thinking to have another child. Its very painful. I went on 5 dates with this girl (met online) and we like each other. So I tried to dig deeper and she says that she thought she was ready for a relationship and she did really like me and how I might now think that she led me on. I love you her. I was giving her space and then she soad she wanted a break cause she had so much fun without me. I thought was doing the right things by giving her space but I have been going crazy emotionally because I dont want to lose her. Last 2 months we had some issues and kept fighting and I felt this relationship does not make me complete so 2 days after she left my country I broke up with her. I assumed she just changed her mind. I am enjoying my life but whenever she posts anything on social media i get upset. No, its still the same given your situation. Then got the needs space text. Hi Ryan, So I have lost 14 pounds in 1 week. This does not mean that you say its change and then its fixed it means you say nothing and show through actions. AP Team, Ive been dating the love of my life for 3.5 years and she just told me that she was considering that we break up, then decided she just needed space to think about the situation because we are so involved and love each other and our families do too. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/blog/ and https://www.youtube.com/c/ApolloniaPonti It will be better for both of us to stay separate. Thanks again. My insecurities got the better of me after she returned from a work trip. But I dont want to lose her neither. She has to see the value in the relationship with you first. First i would like to point out, that she has never been so cold or disrespectful to me when it happened. As humans sometimes when we are feeling a little overwhelmed we can lash out and just need some time to gather ourselves and it seems, to me at least, like that could be whats going on. Playing Shayla was such a privilege, she t" Im not sweet anymore She knows I have feelings for her, but we still hang out. Her ex was in rehab because he is a junkie. The other day I went over to her house and she waited till the kids were in bed then she told me she need some space. Heres my situation: I actually suffered from depression, and during that time my girlfriend of 4 years was working one city away from where I am. 3. What do you think I should do? 24hrs later she called me to tell me she is confused and does not know what she wants right now and she needs her space to figure things out. I told her I would give her space and only contact her in May after her exams. If you want this relationship back its going to be up to your progression. I really enjoyed both this and your What It Means When Your Partner Says I Need Space! article. In order for me to help you a bit further, I encourage you to reach out here for a private coaching session. Also keep in mind, her cousin is only staying with them for a couple of months so earliest hed be outta there is by end of March/beginning of April. Best, It can be a great thing, but there is a thing as being too much. And she did she hopes Im serious this time. Tuesday night I tried calling her just to clarify things but she did not answer but replied that she wants a more days to think things over. She then says she needs space so I said ok. Well she would txt me goodnight and goodmorning and how my day was going. You can move on. I am in the process of changing jobs and move with my wife as per our plan. I told her two days later I realized things got to crowded and overwhelming. The conversation was brief but nice. Heres the link to where you can do that. Hello Apollonia, she was in year 1 while I was in my finals in the University, we got to meet before the Corona break and I took her number and we started getting close and finally started dating by September. I told her that should could reach out to me if/when shes ready. She also mentioned that she has put me as her priority for so long and havent had time to take care of herself and said that she expressed her feelings about our relationship and our intimacy but said I never took it serious or understood her. We did have some good moments on the holiday, even intimacy initiated by her but she did have a huge meltdown on the last night crying and saying she just wanted to be home now where everything would be different. I do love this woman, but i am scared ive pushed her to her breaking point. That was the only one I sent and will send unless she initiates, I just felt like a jerk for not responding in the first place after she asked for space. Thats the most important and attractive to a woman. Web5 Things Men Do WRONG After She Asks For SPACE! she need time to think what she want(she dont tell how much time she want).she want to be alone.and what she do!! (I do question and assume a lot :/) Plus you spent the whole day working on your car so what do you mean? I expressed to her about not showing affection and the fact that I never hardly get to see her. Shes an individual that is surrounded by a lot of people in her life, Im not saying shes ignoring me, but at the same time I dont know if her saying I need space is really her way of distancing herself from me to focus attention on this new guy. I really hurt her alot. She said it had developed gradually. I have respected her time and space because I care so much. We work on dating and relationship skills with Apollonia and her team. You were correct! Some days she tells me she misses my voice or she feels weird we havent talked all day over the phone (we everyday, sometimes more than others). What do it do?? I though it was all good i am a good guy , and dont think i am that needy as never complain she goes out friends or text her much unless texts me if she says she seeing friends saturday day i ask when she wants to see me she says saturday night or sunday i come instead . she mentioned that she does not know what she wants right now and that she still loves me and cares for mefollowed by giving me a hug and a kiss on the lips for a few seconds. Why did she ask for space? I gained an insight on how does she needs space in relationship. Fast forward Jan. 18 they are finally divorced. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my blog When She Says She Needs Space, Heres What to do! What do I do?. No contact is meant for you to change and look into the things that you brought into this relationship that made the both of you have troubles. Hi Apollonia, Ive kind of lost my head, become needy, jealous. Theres a reason why shes ignoring you so dont avoid that. I couldnt see the signs because even the days prior to breaking up except for seeming like she didnt really want to talk she was still her normal affectionate self, grabbing my hand, kissing, not pulling away when I grabbed her hand but she was never really affectionate that much to begin with so her normal affection didnt trigger me to think anything was wrong. Ok so me and this girl met up on tinder for the first couple of weeks we just texted and really couldnt get any where with her but after we face timed for a week we went out and had a blast i told her that i had a great time and she told me that same night we hung out that she wanted to see me again so i did after 4 days went by we went out again. She suffers from anxiety and I havent helped with being snappy, clingy and needy recently due to some developments that turned me into a momentary wuss. When I was in jail I gave the option that its ok to leave me because Im no good while in jail. Yes, I hate admitting it but Ive been toxic without even knowing. We are studying in the same school, same module, same course, its just hard to play it cool 24/7. Look at yourself as a man of pride, dignity, and respect and focus on rebuilding your confidence. What do I do? Sometimes, a girl needs space when she is overwhelmed by too many things, such as a lot of college or work assignments. She said that she needed some space and did not tell what is the problem so i gave her some space after 10 days she reached out telling me hey , i answered but she did not answer, after two days i told her if she had any problems Hello Deepak, My name is Godwin and my girl friend loves me so much until I confessed that I had cheated on her and I have a baby with someone else. I was wondering if this is a good plan: 1. | Terms of service |Policy|About|Contact Us. Hey, I need some advice, I started being being quite jealous, she was acting cold, I told her she needs a break, but she didnt want it, then after two days she asked for the break, I asked her if she got back to her ex she said yes, then I insisted on breaking up but she was insisting on taking just a break and asked me if I will wait for her, she also said she loves me .. her ex is going to get back to another country, she will stay home, havent talked at all for 3 days now, Hello Netoiu, It seems as though you may have lost yourself in this process and you need to build attraction and find yourself again. I am not sure what to do. Here is the link if you would like to take the next step. Never had problems in relationship. Best, Team Apollonia. If this eventually leads to a relationship or if youre in a relationship right now, you have to show her that you can give her space and the time that she needs. Thank you for your comment and I know right now can be incredibly confusing and difficult. I was going through a divorce and she broke up with her last boyfriend 6 months prior because he cheated on her. Apollonia, Your comment heremy girlfriend asked for space cos we havent seen each other for 10 months but we communicate well even though I do most of the conversation Hi Apollonia, I try to have a conversation with her and shes on her phone reading articles. Pull back, focus on you, your happiness, self-esteem and self-worth come from inside of YOU not from other people. Hey Richard, you might have put her on a pedestal too fast and you got attached without taking the time to really get to know her. She took a month off from work on FMLA and leave of absence and went to see her mother 3x. Things took off and the connection was amazing from the first minute we started chatting. Best, My wife and I have been married for about 3 years. I asked if she had any interest in meeting any one new or was talking to someone. My girlfriend said she needed space from me so that she could be with other people sexually and explore herself. For the last 2 weeks since we made new contact, we do talk daily, but there are some days she is distant and others more friendly. Wonder if I should text her back, or ignore it? I honestly can say that I want to marry her and have family and all. Afterwards we were still good and would talk. She feels for some reason that having kids and getting married are a deal breaker. I reassured her via text that whilst it wasnt ideal I still had a good time. I am so glad you enjoyed the articles! Thank you. The reason for why she needs some time i asked her she said i m adjusting and compromising the things bcz of her in my life which she says you dont need to compromise or adjust. Look up interdependent relationship. Please help, my girlfriend asked for space cos we havent seen each other for 10 months but we communicate well even though I do most of the conversation Shouldnt we tell the ppl we love that we love them? https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/. When we get into a relationship or if we get involved with someone, we may be unsure of whether theyre a match for us, or maybe were suffering from something thats going on in our lives right now. Catch up on sports, PlayStation and whatever else you want to do. I dont wanna be questioning but I need to find out what this is especially because Im planning on making it official soon! Havent eaten Ive tried I just cant stomach anything at the moment. Hello Aj, And we instantly had amazing chemistry and a connection that I cant really explain in words Some people fail and some people can come up on top. Best. She needs space and its been a week now. I admit I wanted to make sure we both loved each other so I would ask her every 3 months. I overheard she was single and made myself known. She responded saying thanks and asking what Im checking in on, in turn I blew it off answering the next day saying nothing in particular, just letting you know I agree with you and encourage thanking a step back. Does this help? Was it fighting, being overbearing. Please help, Me and my lady have been together for 2 years she recently said she needs space to work on her as her job is stressing her out and she feels like it has changed her she had told me its nothing to do with me. So many people think that they will lose their partner if they dont call them all the time, text them all the time, or apologize all the time, but that is the complete opposite of what you should be doing. Im contemplating wether I should reach out to her and ask her how shes doing but at the same time I dont think I should. We were talking about marriage, moving in together, she met my family and i met hers (not a casual thing in our culture). Three possible explanations: Youre smothering her Youre perhaps too much on her back. She thought that was the best idea and might work. If you need more guidance, I would suggest a private coaching session https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/ I want to talk to her every waking minute . So then eventually I came to respect her decision, before hand she stated we still belong to eachother and will follow the same boundaries as we had put in place when we were together, I hope he have a chapter 2 to our story bevause you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Hello Dustin, We have a month in front of us where we cant meet up because of my work and her kids holidays. Just let her be. So was like why now, and she was clear with her decision, but later added that you can just pay me the money but wont ask you to. soon as 1 says space Im out for good if we cant stay in a home and talk about the issue I cant mind read. Apollonia. Hey John, Arranged marriage or not. I am willing to wait for her because I want her in my life but what should I do? My friends that have gone through these situations and that have been dating with there partners far longer than i have with anyone told me to message her so I did. Are you involved in everything to the point where she knows you will always pick her up and do all the work to put her back together when she falls? She hasnt blocked me yet on any social platform. Continue to give her space and not tolerate her having both of you. Thanks for your comment. You can tell when someone is not open to having a conversation with you. Which caused our communications issues but there was no fighting, rarely any disagreements. As I said before I am not trying to be rude to you or mean but I am being honest. Youve shown her you only remove her from your life for a couple of days. We love a strong man that can hold his own at the end of the day. Thanks so much for reply Apollonia. I have been slowly working on changing my attitude with my struggles and am starting to incorporate some positive behaviors. shes awesome a great girl. If you were too involved in the relationship and she needed space to analyze whether this is something that she wants, that space is going to be critical in this relationship, there is a significant chance that she could be feeling claustrophobic. How horrifying is it when she says she needs space!? she said that she still loves me and wants me in her life but I dont want to just be friends, It would hurt me too much. Went out with friends, had fun and showed I am capable of living alone just as you advised here. Best, The reason she needs space is she is tired and doesnt want to communicate with people via meseenger apps and play social media. I reached out to her letting her know that I appreciated her for letting me know how she felt and that I will respect her by giving her space by backing off. Ive known this girl since 7th grade but we only saterted so see each other a few months ago. https://www.apolloniaponti.com/private-coaching/, I Apollonia and Ponti They is this lady i met we are currently dating she lost her husband 2years ago, she just told me that she feels like she is cheating on her dead husband that she cant talk to me anymore that i should give her some time She admits that the chemistry between us is amazing when we are together. I just need to know if its truly over she says she loves me and this will be better for us in the long run. Hope this helps! As much as we were connected everyday, are these the right things I should be doing? Best, 2. Apollonia. My girl friend and I were so happy together we loved each other and were there for each other. When she says she needs space, heres what to do! She was very affictionate and caring. Question- a week before Valentines Day my girlfriend 34 and i am 47 of 5 months (she never liked labels and said not call anything)said she MIGHT be going to stay with family as father birthday a few days before, but even before she mentioned this I said like to see her on Valentines day- I do think that you losing control of who you are by not eating and also being too needy towards her isnt healthy but can ruin or slow down the process of getting back together. Focus on your life and finding your own inner happiness. As soon as i left i realized that i messed up i should have left the first time she told me and that she didnt want to be touched and i still didnt follow with what she asked from me. I think we both started feeling love for each other after a few months. She shows caution in that she might hesitate on getting together one day but not another. She also said she was unsure about the future. You can message her after that but do the work on yourself to find your happiness and self worth from within not from someone else. Funny how when I busted her cheating ass getting out of done other dudes car at the bar you should of seen her face. I would look up Attached by Amir Levine this is going to help with even more clarity. Ive been trying to give her that space and let her make all the contact moves. She also bright me around her family on Christmas and told her mom how shes so serious about me and ready to spend the New Years with me. We have seen one another 5 times during the last 2 weeks and over this past weekend, she said I have noticed some positive changes in you like the person you use to be and its great to see again. I know! Im afraid she wont contact me again, so far I havent contacted her for three days, should I look at her Instagram stories since we follow each other? What do you think I should do ? Please book a session here. If you are having anxiety towards the situation it does show some attachment and clinginess. She also asked if her cousin and i dated. Unfortunately, that isnt always the right way to look at love. Focusing on myself during this week and a half so I may become a more confident version of myself. Now that broke me apart, I fought and fought and fought to get her back and eventually it worked as of April 2021 but the relationship was never the same. Hello Christopher, Both of our divorces were finalized few months ago at the same time and the reason it took so long was because of COVID. Thanks for your reply! My best friend started to fall in love with me shortly after and I fell for her. Relationships are hard and thats why we are here to help. So basically, I have been with this woman For 2.5 years (honestly the love of my lifeconvenient, I know lol) but it has not been great for a very long time and now were broken up. We both have expressed how much we have grown on each other and really care and like one another. Insecure and depressed. I am not 100% sure but this is just a guess from your comment. I have helped many couples overcome fidelity so you are in the right spot. We spoke about what we wanted (a partner & marriage) but that we couldnt set those kind of expectations on the first date. That is whats going on here. She asked for space and Ive given it to her for more than a week. It might be something a bit more. Thats your job. During that space she texted me and called me regularly as if the space was never requested but day by day she started to get more distant still texting me but not letting me see her to show her Ive changed. However, when she woke up she stated that awww that made me feel so much better and I love you with all of my heart, I want to spend my life with you and I cant wait for our future together, but that makes me feel like Im a horrible girlfriend, because Ive never wrote you paragraphs like that when you were upset I just dont know if Im doing the right thing to win her back since Im the one that drove her away and made her insecure.
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